My name is Nicole and my husband, Bernard, and I have three daughters. Lana Joy is 5, Madeline Hope (Maddy) is 3, and Briella Faith is 2 months old. We are
an Australian family living in Hong Kong. All three of our children were born
here.
Until my pregnancy with Maddy, I had never met anyone with
dwarfism and knew very little about it. I was only 14 weeks pregnant when we
knew there were complications. Three weeks later, we were told it was “skeletal
dysplasia”. At that stage, our odds were not good. Many forms of skeletal
dysplasia found that early in pregnancy are lethal, and the baby is either
stillborn or does not live very long after birth. It was suggested that we
terminate the pregnancy – however we chose to carry to term regardless and hope
for a non-lethal form.
After birth, Maddy was diagnosed with diastrophic dysplasia,
a non-lethal form of dwarfism. She was the first case of this diagnosed in Hong
Kong. She had some breathing difficulties at birth, but quickly grew stronger
and stronger. Our doctors were very cautious with her, not knowing how stable
her condition was, and because of this she spent her first 4 months (very
uneventfully) in NICU. Since birth, she has been remarkably healthy – I’m sure
she has the strongest immune system in our family!
Medically, Maddy’s main complications come from her spine –
she has a significant scoliosis that will need surgery sooner or later. Her
hips are not great but at this stage, there is little that can be done to
improve them. Maddy is mobile and pain free, although we understand that with
diastrophic dysplasia, her joints are likely to get worse over time, causing
her pain and decreased mobility. When she is an adult, Maddy will need a hip
replacement. Maddy has currently only needed one surgery to fix her cleft
palate and insert grommets (ear tubes) to drain the fluid from the middle ear.
Maddy has multiple regular follow up appointments with all
kinds of specialists. She also uses special orthotic inserts in her shoes to
improve the position of her ankle when she walks. She has regular physiotherapy
(for general strengthening and balance exercises), occupational therapy (to
help her with fine motor skills such as writing and cutting, and also self-care
skills), and speech therapy. She is blossoming into a very special little girl
with a magnetic personality.
After Maddy was born, my husband and I found out that we
were carriers of diastrophic dysplasia and as such, each of our children has a
25% chance of being born with the condition. At first, it was difficult to
decide whether or not to have another child, but as Maddy grew, we realised
that we were willing to take that chance. We could even see benefits in having
another child with the condition – particularly for Maddy’s sake.
Briella was born in November 2013. Like Maddy, she has
diastrophic dysplasia. Her medical issues, however, are not identical to her
sister. Briella did have some breathing difficulties at birth, however she did
not need as much assistance with breathing. She was the second case ever
diagnosed in Hong Kong (after her sister), and the doctors were far less (over)cautious
with her. She was home from NICU at 11 days old. Unlike Maddy, Briella has
clubfoot which is quite typical for diastrophic dysplasia. We are currently in
the middle of treatments for that – a new experience even though we are
“experienced” parents.
Although two of our girls have very frequent doctors’
appointments and we spend more time at hospitals than we would like, our family
is very “normal”. Like any other family, we deal with stubbornness, tantrums
and sibling rivalry. We laugh, watch Sofia the First and play Lego. Four years
ago, I was sure that a dwarfism diagnosis was changing our lives. Now when I
look at our daily lives, it seems so insignificant.
8th February 2014
Hi Nicole, I just wanted you to know that I keep up with her blog and that your secondary aim to help others is being fulfilled. I also have a three month old with skeletal dysplasia (Metatropic Dysplasia). I wanted to share with you that I gain comfort, wisdom, and a sense of not being alone by following your blog. Thank you for allowing me to follow.
ReplyDeleteIm 28 weeks pregnant and is having the same situation.. im so deeply scared.. im 15 and I get so upset bc I don't know if imma lose her and it has open my eyes so much!.. but reading this has helped me so much! It has given me nothing but hope and comfort! I hope and pray everything is going to turn out even better for her! My daughter is so active and my doctors at every check up saids she is extreamly active and its not normal for a baby to be so hyper! But they saids its not bad... than I hear she has a letal condition called skelatal dysplatsia and it upsets me but I will not lose hope because of what you wrote! Thank you!
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